Career Positivity

Professional

In an age of women stepping up in the career department and gaining confidence in unprecedented ways historically, I must admit I am not quite there. I suffer from quite the inferiority complex in my professional pursuits and dreams.

I found a website that claims it can help people deal with this using the law of attraction, and it has a step-by-step list.

Step 1: Determine who you feel inferior to.

The article then lists the most frequent culprits of this feeling. The list includes those who have impressive, dynamic careers. I am not sure if this is exactly what it is, but I think it fits the bill enough to display the feeling.

Step 2: Stop worrying what others will think.

I am likely as guilty as the next person on this matter, but I am more guilty of assuming that I am innately flawed than that people are judging me. If anything, I think that they are finding out! “Oh no! They know that I might not be born to do this job that I ONLY do to make money!”

Step 3: Build Confidence

The article suggests that we treat ourselves better, do what we truly love, and act confidently. Those suggestions are pretty vague, unfortunately. But, sure, overall I totally agree. I am a generally confident person, but I could admittedly benefit from building professional confidence specifically. This is a general idea that I can keep in mind until I can seek out building professional confidence as a separate topic possibly.

Step 4: Replace negative talk with self-affirming talk

This idea is what drove me to write this blog post in the first place! I had a moment today during work where I felt inadequate, exposed, and downright shitty. I wallowed for longer than I should have. Then, I thought it might be beneficial to change my mindset. That led me to the post. And, I need to practice self-affirming talk in my professional life more often…i.e. all the friggin’ time!

Step 5: Surround Yourself with Positive People

Yes.

….No more steps!

But, when do I ask the universe for some stuff? I was waiting for this part. I guess I will have to try again tomorrow!

 

Day 47: Control and Love

My 500 Words

Love and control…control and love. Two sides of the same coin? Or, are they just confused. Parents and children…children and parents. A confusing relationship that is so rich but is often fraught with frustration. Why is that? And, why do we try to control the lives of those we love the most. Is it fear? Is it like the mind? The mind is the watchful parent, and it can be so misguided and so gripped with fear that it can miss the point entirely. Maybe that is it.

I feel the struggle. I want my family to be healthy, to be thriving, and to take control of their lives. You can’t force someone to take control of their life. That would kind of defeat the purpose. If I force someone to take control of their life, they haven’t taken control at all. They will simply be doing it because they were forced. And, eventually, they will either resent me for telling them what to do or change their behavior anyway. It isn’t the path to positive. Why does it feel so damn tempting then? Why do I want to tell my loved ones to stop watching television or to take a walk instead of eating another cookie? I know me telling them isn’t going to change anything in 9/10 situations. Do I keep trying because of that 10% of possibility (made up statistic).

How can I work on letting go? I want to let go, but I am not there yet. I need to ask GOD for his help with this one because I am not letting it go on my own. I want to love my family whether they smoke crack in gutters with the scourge of society or are friends and colleagues of Bill and Melinda Gates. I want to love them unconditionally, and I don’t know if I am there yet. I want to be there, but I fall short. I will keep trying.

Today was a frustrating day for me. I had to acknowledge that I do fall short of unconditional acceptance, but perhaps not the love. I think I love. But, I do not always accept. I want to control some things and some people, to have a say over things I cannot have a say over. I want to resist the control of others that are struggling with the same needs. I am not there and have often fallen short, but I want to get better with this. I want to amaze people with my ability to be so secure in myself that they can be whoever they want. I do not want to amaze them for my ego or to build my name as better or holier than thou. I want to amaze them simply because I have gotten THAT comfortable being comfortable. Divine intervention, come at me bro.

Perhaps this is common, especially among families. I want everyone to love them as much as me, to see them as the funny and beautiful people that they are. But, by doubting them, I dim them. Rather, I should lift them up higher.