A Simple Salad and A Feral Cook

cooking

Adam and I decided to cook dinner together last night, which is something we just don’t do enough. We usually have a lot of fun and eat much healthier and more intentionally when we eat at home. I bought the cookbook Love and Lemons this weekend, so that inspired us to change our ways.

Now, I have to be honest; I am not exactly an accomplished chef or even a comfortable cook. I am deeply insecure in the kitchen. I know it is ridiculous. I know that cooking is fun and there are no rules. But, there are rules and you know it. Furthermore, sometimes people are dicks, and I have met and talked to many of these people. So, my issue is that I like to cook. I like to be in my kitchen alone with the freedom to do the wrong thing and the ability to improvise without having to explain myself. I like this creativity. What I don’t like is cooking alongside someone that learned to cook some kind of way from someone that knew…because that wasn’t me. I am like a feral animal let loose with a hot plate and some bruised vegetables, and I like it that way.

All of this is to say that my boyfriend and I had a kitchen clash. The old inferiority complex of the past reared its ugly head while we both worked away, him making a lovely salad and me heating 2 portabella mushrooms on a skillet. It culminated in an argument, some sorry saying (on my part), a conversation, and luckily some nice tasting food.

What I learned from this experience was that I can be a nut about silly things and that freaking out because you drop food on the floor is just NOT a good look. I also learned that the salad that Adam made was so lovely and so simple! A new favorite!

Ingredients:

  • Feta
  • Tomatoes
  • Avocado
  • Cucumber

No dressing needed- just dice it up and toss the ingredients together. A lovely simple side salad! I forgot to take a photo, and it has been consumed already! Sorry I am not sorry!

Will be sharing more cooking adventures as I seek to get over my crisis of confidence in the kitchen!

 

 

Career Positivity

Professional

In an age of women stepping up in the career department and gaining confidence in unprecedented ways historically, I must admit I am not quite there. I suffer from quite the inferiority complex in my professional pursuits and dreams.

I found a website that claims it can help people deal with this using the law of attraction, and it has a step-by-step list.

Step 1: Determine who you feel inferior to.

The article then lists the most frequent culprits of this feeling. The list includes those who have impressive, dynamic careers. I am not sure if this is exactly what it is, but I think it fits the bill enough to display the feeling.

Step 2: Stop worrying what others will think.

I am likely as guilty as the next person on this matter, but I am more guilty of assuming that I am innately flawed than that people are judging me. If anything, I think that they are finding out! “Oh no! They know that I might not be born to do this job that I ONLY do to make money!”

Step 3: Build Confidence

The article suggests that we treat ourselves better, do what we truly love, and act confidently. Those suggestions are pretty vague, unfortunately. But, sure, overall I totally agree. I am a generally confident person, but I could admittedly benefit from building professional confidence specifically. This is a general idea that I can keep in mind until I can seek out building professional confidence as a separate topic possibly.

Step 4: Replace negative talk with self-affirming talk

This idea is what drove me to write this blog post in the first place! I had a moment today during work where I felt inadequate, exposed, and downright shitty. I wallowed for longer than I should have. Then, I thought it might be beneficial to change my mindset. That led me to the post. And, I need to practice self-affirming talk in my professional life more often…i.e. all the friggin’ time!

Step 5: Surround Yourself with Positive People

Yes.

….No more steps!

But, when do I ask the universe for some stuff? I was waiting for this part. I guess I will have to try again tomorrow!